tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post4206324716287940721..comments2023-08-01T08:48:40.034-04:00Comments on My Cloth Diaper Stash: How to Handle Know-it-All'sWAH Adventures!http://www.blogger.com/profile/00948807062719719653noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-84062813674423356602012-02-27T14:28:22.473-05:002012-02-27T14:28:22.473-05:00Having kids has taught me that every baby is so di...Having kids has taught me that every baby is so different. Suggestions are great as long as people don't think that their way is the only or best way because it worked for their kid. Things that worked for Jeremiah did not work for Caleb and vise versa. James Dobson wrote about a couple who had 2 "perfect(or close to it)" kids and told everyone else what they were doing wrong because their kids were not as compliant, smart, etc...as their. This couple ended up having a "surprise" baby when their older 2 were teenagers. This baby was completely different from birth and gave them a run for their money. They realized that they did not really know the first thing about raising a child like their 3rd and stopped giving advise :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-8824112984045141592012-02-26T23:14:37.927-05:002012-02-26T23:14:37.927-05:00These are good ways to suggest things, because som...These are good ways to suggest things, because some things can be very helpful!Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01580344987292750981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-20640419720013145552012-02-26T23:13:46.521-05:002012-02-26T23:13:46.521-05:00Thanks for your thoughtful comment! I must agree t...Thanks for your thoughtful comment! I must agree that some advice people give is helpful, and the one thing that helped my son when he had colic was from another mother who had experienced colic. I do also agree that most people are truly trying to help...but just don't know how to get it out the right way, especially for someone sensitive like me!<br /><br />I love your advice...making a suggestion without critiquing what I am not doing:)I did try swaddling with no luck, however I never heard of the socks thing! I am curious about this and wonder if it could have helped! I also like the way you brought up the true barrier ointment vs. desitin...great suggestion, something a new, sleep deprived mom might not think of. It sounds like I would like to hear some of your advice because you have the right idea about communication, making people less defensive. Thanks again for sharing!Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01580344987292750981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-69848856048029430042012-02-26T18:49:54.262-05:002012-02-26T18:49:54.262-05:00Unsolicited advice isn't always welcome - howe...Unsolicited advice isn't always welcome - however it is human nature for others to want to help if they can. And if you ever listen to yourself - I would bet you do it too...we ALL do it w/o realizing. However, it's one thing for someone to offer a suggestion and another when someone is being critical of something you say or do. If others never offered what they know - you could be missing out on some valuable information. This is how we all learn and gain knowledge. <br /><br />I've found the best way to offer any advice is to first start out by saying - make I make a suggestion? This tends to put people not on the defensive.<br /><br />Then there are the people who are know-it-alls - those are the people that irk my gizzard. They are unwilling to accept that there may be a better way to do something, or that someone else may know something that they don't and no matter what you have to say - they are right and you are wrong. <br /><br />And should I have offered some advice for your baby crying all the time - I would asked if you tried swaddling him tightly in a blanket or tried keeping socks on his feet ALL the time. For the diaper rashes - I would have suggested you try a barrier ointment - and not Desitin or something of the like - but a true barrier ointment. Plus, I would have told you about how one ointment actually caused my son's skin to look like not just a diaper rash but as if he had a severe sunburn - it ended up that he was allergic to that ointment.Susan W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11309123390406305967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-86326718112853735572012-02-25T13:22:16.639-05:002012-02-25T13:22:16.639-05:00LMAO I am right on board with you on this. I hate...LMAO I am right on board with you on this. I hate unsolicited advice. Drives me nuts. I think people generally are trying to be helpful but don't come off that way. I work with a bunch of know it alls and trust me we have our verbal wars.<br /><br />Kevin :) Great postAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-9955054650643278812012-02-25T10:40:15.813-05:002012-02-25T10:40:15.813-05:00This was fun reading and great suggestions!
Carrie...This was fun reading and great suggestions!<br />Carrie<br />www.carrieskiddiecloset.comCarrieskiddieclosethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13935375273841821893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-46754168758177951382012-02-25T10:37:18.882-05:002012-02-25T10:37:18.882-05:00My favorite responses are "I'm glad that ...My favorite responses are "I'm glad that worked for you" and "I appreciate you sharing with me" <br /><br />If I'm ever asked for advice I try to give it in a nice way too.. 'have you thought about trying...?' or asking if someone wants my opinion before I give it helps to keep my name off the know it all list...Actingbalancedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15401265786470196845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-784522891406070782012-02-25T09:51:49.745-05:002012-02-25T09:51:49.745-05:00Great suggestions, I need to keep them in mind nex...Great suggestions, I need to keep them in mind next time have to deal with a know-it-all! =PAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05754295123692467551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-53474211425516019402012-02-25T07:21:21.038-05:002012-02-25T07:21:21.038-05:00UGH - drives me crazy!UGH - drives me crazy!Mama to 5https://www.blogger.com/profile/05540239844969629644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-4596972459658260432012-02-25T07:05:35.783-05:002012-02-25T07:05:35.783-05:00Ha ha! I get I hit a soft spot!! LOL!! What is the...Ha ha! I get I hit a soft spot!! LOL!! What is the evil eye pin?? I am curious now@Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01580344987292750981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8752128603429554809.post-81381420634856679522012-02-25T00:09:51.981-05:002012-02-25T00:09:51.981-05:00Yeah I know how you feel. I'm too nice and won...Yeah I know how you feel. I'm too nice and wont say what I'm really thinking. So this one time we were at this Greek party and Alex was 2 months old. He feel asleep on me and we were on our way out the door. This little old Greek lady that didn't speak English starting telling me to hold his head (in Greek.) She grab my hand and put it on his head. He was just laying on my shoulder sleeping!! His head wasn't just bobbing around. I was really mad but I just walked away. Sometimes I wish I could say something in those moments but she wouldn;t of understood me anyways. Later Paul told me she was also saying to put him in a crib. Idk it still bothers me to this day. I did almost lose it a few days ago when my MIL and Paul's aunt were telling me what to do. Paul's Aunt kept telling me i need to put the evil eye pin on Alex all the time. Well guess what lady I'm not Greek so I don't have to do anything! One thing that annoys me is one of my friends works in a daycare and she tells me what Alex should be doing or me. I get that you work with babies but you dont know what its like to have your own. Its a little more annoying to get advice from people who dont have children. Getting advice from my friends with young kids doesn't bother me because sometimes there advice helps. Okay I'll stop ranting now.hltphotohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10577617338075828121noreply@blogger.com